Valentine’s Day. When we first married I told my husband that I never wanted roses for Valentine’s Day; it seemed silly to me to pay for overprices roses that weren’t going to last anyway. The first couple of years we made each other gifts. Eventually time stole that tradition, and we moved on to spending time together until children stole that gift. And for a few years we floundered, not knowing what to do with the expectations of such a day. Valentine’s Day just doesn’t make my heart go pitter-patter, though I am a girl and occasionally do find myself wanting to do something fun for the silly heart-infested day. So . . .
A couple years ago, I decided that while I didn’t want to fall into the lie that buying a card would make my marriage better, I did want to do something for Valentine’s Day. As a matter of fact I wanted to do a lot of somethings, inspired by this post, I planned 14 day of Valentine’s Day. I decided that for 14 days I was going to serve my husband by doing things for him – one thing each day for two weeks.
I’ll be honest and tell you that there were days that were hard – because I was tired or just feeling lazy or for no reason at all, but most days were an absolute delight! We had such a great two weeks, and I still look back at that time and think what a blessing it was to serve my man!
If you want to do something similar (I’d highly encourage it!), here’s a few ideas.
- cook his favorite dinner
- leave him a little note where he’ll find it on his way out the door – let him know you’ll be waiting for him to come home (and I do mean in the nicest kind of waiting way)
- put a note in his lunch box or sort of hidden in his wallet
- give him a backrub
- tell him that he is a great provider
- make his favorite dessert
- find/borrow/check out (from the library)/pick up a movie that the kids haven’t seen and plan a candlelight dinner in the next room (feed the kids something easy just before he comes home, then pop that movie in and enjoy a nice meal with your man)
- (ahem!) new undergarments
- give him the night off (do whatever it is that your husband does to help out around the house in the evening and insist that he go relax)
- get a sitter and take him out
- fondue (There are tons of simple recipes online for fondue – find one that works for you and gather stuff to dip.) You can do this with the kids or . . .
- put the kids to bed early (bribe them, if you have to) and enjoy dessert together
- watch one of his favorite movies
- linger just a bit longer when you greet him after work
- read to him (Don’t know what to read? Song of Solomon is a good place to start . . . )
- tell him that you are proud of him
- a bath together
- have “your song” playing when he gets home from work
- take him coffee during a lunch break or another time in the day that you know he would love it
- decide to not nag for a day . . . or a week . . . or whatever length of time you think you can
- get a sitter (that will watch your kids at her house – trade nights with a friend) and stay in
- make a list of ten things that you love about him – tape it to the mirror where he gets ready in the morning
- share a bottle of sparkling cider or wine or Izze or whatever it is that is special for the two of you – do it on a night that you wouldn’t normally – the point is that you take the time to talk while you share
- let him know that you are praying for him (and then do it!)
- Change out of your yoga pants before he gets home . . . smell nice too
There are so many little things that you can do to build your marriage. Many of them don’t have to cost you anything but a little time. Many of them can include the kids (we’ve learned that our kids love candlelight meals and act like normal little people when we give them the opportunity to enjoy one with us), though it was fun to sneak around and find stuff to do without the kids.
So this is a little bit of a challenge, step it up for 14 days – see if you can serve your husband in some little way each of those days. I’ll bet you’ll be rewarded for it.